He’s that ‘special’ guy in your life who’s always been there for you since like, forever?

Your memory can’t stretch to think of the time before him. He was there for you during your greatest times of strife, he was there with you celebrating the significant moments in your life– this guy was the one person you felt you could turn to no matter what. No, I am not referring to your boyfriend. I am referring to your best [boy]friend.

The debate of whether it is possible for a friendship between a guy and girl to be completely platonic has been around for so long. A lot of people used to question me about whether I had a ‘thing’ with him, but honestly, I didn’t. He would be the one person I could fart in front of without any sense of shame. I don’t know if it is just me, but come on…would you do that in front of a guy you have a crush on?

We have seen each other go through our own set of relationships, even met each other’s boyfriends or girlfriends without a tinge of jealousy. The relationship we had during  that period was definitely not a romantic kind, yet I can’t deny the fact that my relationship with him was like any other friendship I’ve had before. It was a friendship, but he was different.

I believe is possible for a boy and a girl to have a platonic friendship. However, there is just that very fine line between friendship and love. If you are not careful, you both might just end up falling in love with each other.

And we did.

But this doesn’t rule out the possibility for a guy and a girl to have a platonic friendship, because honestly it only happens when you let it happen. It may be subconscious or unintentional, but when you tell your heart and mind that it is okay to see that someone in a different light, everything just falls into place. Honestly, my relationship with him was the greatest blessing in disguise. Let me tell you why.

1.We already know each other so well, that there is no need for secrets. It is easy to make each other happy, when you know them so well– what matters to them most, what things they like, what are their pet peeves and etc. The whole thing just feels extremely comfortable and instinctive.

2.There is very little to no trust issues. I would never feel insecure if he went out with another girl, because he knows exactly what my boundaries are and would not risk overstepping it. Plus, he has always been there for me through thick and thin, and has never failed to be there for me no matter the circumstance. I would trust him with my life.

3.I know all his flaws and imperfections, and I love him and all his flaws just the same. When you date someone new, sometimes the person you date builds an image. And you end up dating this hollow caricature of a person, until you move on to the next step of your relationship and he finally gets comfortable with you (Unfortunately you then realise he is a total prick.) But with him, there is no hiding, I know him for who he is. And vice versa.

4.My family already loves him and treats him like a son. All those years of friendship, it is not possible for him to have not got acquainted with my family. He is the one guy my family trusts to bring me to a club for the first time. So there was definitely no issue when I told them I started dating him, instead they said “I always thought you both looked so cute together, and now that vision has come true!” (I threw up a little in my mouth)

There you go, I plead guilty for saying that boys and girls can have platonic friendships, and yet still ended up falling in love with my best friend. Best thing that ever happened to me, hands down!