All of us have been romantically involved with someone at some point in our lives. Be it infatuation, puppy love, or even our first loves. After coming out of 2 relationships, I found some similarities and differences each and every time I entered a relationship.
In each and every one of my relationships, I felt love differently. Not only because my significant other changed, but also because I changed. The way that I expressed myself and how cautious I was acting – it all depended on the experiences I had or didn’t have in past relationships. It makes me love differently. Each partner had their own quirks and we as human beings tend to adapt ourselves so we can complement one another, so it almost impossible to compare two different relationships fairly.
Being an average 20 year old, whenever we are commit to a relationship, we go through that honeymoon period. Our significant other provides us with security and I feel that the security they provide allows us to develop and mature a lot more as a person. Because not only are we living for ourselves, but we constantly have to think about our partner as well. They make us better. But just like a double edged sword, if the relationship ends, it can break you. People deal with breakups differently, some people change completely for a short period of time because they don’t want to be reminded of their partner, some take forever to bring themselves back up because losing your love. And heartbreak literally feels like taking a piece of your heart away.
Have you ever been in that moment of epiphany where you realise that, “Oh my god, I can’t believe I just did that,” because you never thought you would ever go to such lengths for someone else. This happened to me when I literally would cancel all my pre-made plans with my friends, the moment I heard my partner was sick and had no one home to take care of him.
It is no longer a single sum equation, instead it’s an equation with an unknown on each side. We all have our own flaws and dealing with our own shortcomings is already enough work, let alone adding another person into the mix. There will be times where you fight and don’t want to talk to one another. But it really takes to hands to clap, you and your partner would have to sacrifice for one another, and that is not easy at all. But on the bright side, you both would come out even stronger than before.
Love is like a warzone, sometimes we come out victorious, sometimes we get seriously wounded. But through it all it is an learning process about yourself and about your partner. No matter what the outcome is, it is better to have taken that risk to love, than to never experience it at all.
“It is a risk to love
what if doesn’t work out
ah but what if it does”
